I see many families struggling with calls from the school their child is in trouble and they don't know where to turn or what to do.  Sometimes parents come to me saying they want their child to have a place and a person - to talk with about their feelings and struggles.  Honestly, my first reaction is: “Do you want your child to be able to talk to you to come to you with their problems, feelings, struggles? Do you want to build a loving, caring and sharing relationship with them?”

Families often come into therapy feeling discouraged about how to communicate successfully.  The difficulty in communicating has them feeling disconnected and stressed.  I find that the best way to work with children is within the family.  In Child/Family Therapy, with the family involved, it is not just the child facing the problem. The entire family teams up against the problem be it behavioral issues, depression, worry, fear or grief.

There is something else that often happens when we all work together.  Doorways open and family bonds are re-established, so that families develop a renewed sense of connection and competence.  With successful therapy, they leave knowing that they can work together in facing any number of challenges.

Can I share with you the experiences of some of the families I've helped in Child/Family Therapy?

Nancy Ruben, MFT
A Los Angeles Psychotherapist: Individual, Couple, Child and Family Therapy
Child and Family Therapy